{"id":390,"date":"2012-02-25T03:12:42","date_gmt":"2012-02-25T03:12:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/profbanks.com\/?p=390"},"modified":"2012-02-25T03:15:24","modified_gmt":"2012-02-25T03:15:24","slug":"minnesota-nice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/profbanks.com\/?p=390","title":{"rendered":"Minnesota Nice"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Things you should know about me<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I love volunteering for good causes<\/li>\n<li>I love making people feel good about themselves<\/li>\n<li>I love trying new things<\/li>\n<li>I love making people laugh<\/li>\n<li>I also use humor to defuse tense situations<\/li>\n<li>I need to feel useful<\/li>\n<li>I try to be honest, tactful, and polite, even when they seem mutually exclusive<\/li>\n<li>I frequently wear myself out doing things for others before I get around to taking care of myself<\/li>\n<li>I have an anti-authoritarian, rebellious, &#8220;Who the hell are you to tell me I can&#8217;t?&#8221; streak a mile wide<\/li>\n<li>I&#8217;m wild about democratic politics, but not interested in small group interpersonal politics, except in an abstract, anthropological way<\/li>\n<li>I love when my enthusiasm for something makes others enthusiastic too<\/li>\n<li>I somehow manage to have abysmal self-esteem and a sense of unflappable calm and competence in crises<\/li>\n<li>I probably like making lists a little too much<\/li>\n<li>I&#8217;m pretty riled up at the moment, so this is about as passive-aggressive as I get<\/li>\n<li>I&#8217;m pretty sure the people I&#8217;m upset with don&#8217;t read this blog<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Things I don&#8217;t really enjoy<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Power politics in places you don&#8217;t expect them<\/li>\n<li>People who hoard information to guarantee their continued importance<\/li>\n<li>People who let someone else take fire as a leader, but continue to pull strings behind the scenes<\/li>\n<li>Finding out important things about an institution that radically change your understanding and expectations of what&#8217;s possible<\/li>\n<li>The belief that intellectuals can&#8217;t possibly know anything practical about the &#8220;real world&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>The stance that it&#8217;s not worth even trying new things because there&#8217;s the chance that they&#8217;ll fail<\/li>\n<li>Grown-ups who still rely on status cliques for a sense of importance<\/li>\n<li>People who won&#8217;t blow you off to your face, but who basically stopped listening before you started talking<\/li>\n<li>Being accused of selfish motives for taking on time-consuming, thankless volunteer work<\/li>\n<li>Finding oneself nominated by the method of everyone else taking a step backward while you stood still<\/li>\n<li>Being my own (and only) cheerleader<\/li>\n<li>Feeling like a project that&#8217;s meant to be helpful and positive is now nothing but a drag on time, energy, and emotional reserves<\/li>\n<li>Working on not being such a control freak, and then watching everything go directly to hell the minute I leave it alone<\/li>\n<li>Being hamstrung on projects that are important to me because I don&#8217;t play politics<\/li>\n<li>The why-am-I-even-trying-anymore kind of tired<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Things I actually do enjoy<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Kids wanting to hug me, high-five me, say hi to me, tell me a joke, or ask when I&#8217;m coming back to their class, every time I walk down a school hallway<\/li>\n<li>When good, solid, simple plans work like they&#8217;re supposed to, defying others&#8217; 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